Friday, May 4, 2012

Real Marriage

Joining Lisa-Jo and others this morning for Five Minute Friday, where we cut the words loose for just five minutes, and see where they fall. No editing, just encouraging the others who play along. The topic today is Real.

Life has felt very "real" lately. I've been moving and running and doing, and this baby is just around the corner. I'm an organizer, and with my due date a month away it's time to be organized.  But being real is more than lists and strategies.  It's people. The people are what make the strategies matter. Baby is only one side of my interests.

Last weekend my hubby and I went to a marriage conference where we both faced some areas in our marriage that needed work. I'd stopped being real in marriage, I'd gotten lazy and we were drifting into being partners instead of real spouses. Marriage can be so much more than that, and the conference was such a good wake up call. I've noticed that things have changed since then, we are both being more real. 

I wrote in a letter yesterday, "Biblically my highest earthly relationship is with my husband. If I'm too busy for him, I need to cut back. If I'm too tired for him, getting more sleep is non-optional. If I'm taking him for granted, I need to fix my attitude."

God didn't make me to be my husband's partner, somebody who just works beside him to get the jobs done. He made me to be a helpmeet, a home-maker, and being a home-maker is so much more than just being a partner. It's being a playmate, a lover, an encourager, a looker-on-the-bright-side, someone to laugh with. It's not just getting the housework done, or checking the relationship off a to-do list. When I let the fun side of being a wife (the laughter, the cheerful joy, the irrepressible good humor) slip, I become just a housekeeper, not a home-maker.

And "home-maker" is the REAL I choose for our marriage. 


  1. This is super sweet... and a great reminder. We have to keep it real with our beloved spouse... It is so easy to transition into a partner (as in business) instead of being the lover and helpmeet! Thanks for this reminder and may God bless you and your growing family!

    1. Thanks, 7days! I think staying at the lover/helpmeet level takes constant attention--it's a lot more natural to switch to business partner mode. But lover/helpmeet is so much better. Thanks for stopping by!

  2. Oh, what perfect timing- a marriage conference right before your baby is born? God is good, isn't He?
    I've heard (and believe!) that the best thing you can do for your marriage is to love Jesus with all of your heart. Once that is in place, the best thing that you can do for your children is love their daddy with all of your heart!
    All the best!

    1. God IS good! (and the conference itself was a totally unexpected gift from a woman I'd never met before, which makes it even easier to see God's hand in it!)

      It's so true that the best thing we can do for our families is to love Jesus, and love our husbands. Top two priorities, right there. :-)