Friday, May 11, 2012


Joining Lisa-Jo and others this morning for Five Minute Friday, where we cut the words loose for just five minutes, and see where they fall. No editing, just encouraging the others who play along. The topic today is Identity.

Where is my identity? How do I define myself? Is it by the moments, the actions, the thoughts?

My first identity was found as a child--my identity in Christ. This is the identity that should define every moment of my life-sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. But regardless of whether I am fully surrendered to Christ, He has had a profound impact on my life. Is that even enough? I cannot say what I would be without Christ, nothing. I can't imagine my life without Him. Even on the days that I'm grumpy, cranky, annoyed, frustrated, and definitely NOT living the surrendered Christian life (or even taking time for Him), even on those days I can see my identity in Him. Because Christ is what defines my existence, and without him I would have no worth. 

The second role that defines me is that of being a wife. I am my husbands wife, and this is a relationship that transcends all other earthly relationships and loyalties. My parents are dearly loved, but God has commanded me to leave them and cleave to my husband. My children will come, and eventually they will leave me and cleave to their spouses. But my husband, he is mine. I am his. And this relationship is worth everything I can give to it. It is part of my identity.

My third role is that of mother--I am the mother of two little ones. One is with Jesus. One is due to make an appearance in just a few more weeks. Although I've never met either of my little ones in person, they have in many ways defined my life ever since I got that first positive pregnancy test. I have prayed for them, wept for them, loved them, planned for them, hoped for them, and dreamed for them. As much as I have identified myself as a mother for the last year, after this little one is born I will gradually find even more of my identity in motherhood. 

I have many other identities... I am a daughter, a friend, a leader of young ladies, the wife of our church's Music Director, a sister, a neighbor, and a writer. I am creative, thrifty, and a home decorator. All of these roles and more come together to define who I am. And ultimately that is a good thing--so long as those first three roles stay at the top and in that order. 

What roles define your identity?


  1. I enjoyed this so much. We wrote something very similar.

    Sometimes we need to remember what our identities are in Christ.

  2. Beautiful. And beautifully put. Blessings to you!