Thursday, August 11, 2011

Single gals? Beware your reputation!

Just this past week my husband and I were having dinner with another couple when the question was asked of us, "Are there any good young ladies in your church who are prepared to be married?" They knew several godly young men looking for wives. Each of the men were steady, dependable, dedicated men; a few of them had even, for a full year, spent one day a week in fasting and prayer for their future wife. 

 I wonder how many single women are aware that among their friends, acquaintances and church family that question is asked? Are the single women in the church purposefully living in such a way that a question like that can be answered in the affirmative? Are they living in such a way that their friends could answer—

Yes! We know a woman like that. She is committed to the Lord and has been serving him faithfuly for several years now. She controls her tongue, refusing to gossip or demean others with her words. The "law of kindness" is on her lips. She possesses the "ornament of a meek and quiet spirit," having chosen to trust the Lord through many difficult circumstances.

She is a faithful daughter and sister, making positive relationships with family members a priority. She cultivates a healthy body and good appearance, knowing that her body is the "temple of the Lord." She is an affectionate person, showing love in particular to those whom others often overlook. 
She is a hard worker, having chosen to be industrius during her single years rather than frittering precious time away on silly pursuits as many girls do. She can take care of a home effeciently as she has learned a wide variety of skills. She has kept herself in purity; instead of going from boyfriend to boyfriend (or even crush to crush) she has saved her heart for the man she will marry. She not only will make a wise and kind mother one day, but also an affectionate and appreciative wife.

Perhaps when you read the above description it reminded you of the "Proverbs 31 woman." I didn't write it with the Proverbs 31 woman in mind, though she does bear a strong resemblance to the woman I was thinking of as I wrote. It would be good, however, for single ladies to remember that Proverbs 31 was not written to married women—it was written to a single man from his mother. Proverbs 31 is essentially a single Christian man's wishlist for his future wife. While married women can certainly benefit from emulating the qualities found in that chapter, taken in context they are far more applicable to single women!!

A girl's reputation can spread much farther than she realizes. Does she speak negatively of others? Does she fritter her time away on worthless pursuits? Does she give her affections too freely? These things have a way of getting around. But positive things get around as well—does she live for the Lord? Is she kind to others? Is her word her bond? Does she refuse to gossip? Her reputation will precede her.

To my single sisters, what is your reputation? What are you known for? If the above paragraphs were written about YOU how would they have read? 

Live your life in such a way that someday when a fellow church member or acquaintance is asked the question, "Do you know any good women who are living for the Lord and ready to be married?" it can be answered with a resounding, "Yes! We do!!"

1 comment:

  1. Wow. I am so convicted. I really needed to read this...I know that there are so many areas I need to grow in before I am ready for marriage, although at almost 20 yrs, I should be ready. I'm in tears as I write is almost overwhelming to me - sometimes I wonder if I'll ever get there. !

    I would so appreciate hearing from you (whether by blog or in person) what kinds of things you did (and what materials you think are the most beneficial) to help you be prepared for marriage as a godly, mature young woman.

    Thank you so much for your words of wisdom.