The loss of a child, at any age, is one of the deepest pains a parent or family member can experience. The thought of what might have been can be very difficult for a parent to work through. While it is hard to know how to support someone who has recently miscarried, this is the time in a woman's life when the support and love of family and friends is most needed.
There are a lot of assumptions made about the grieving process after a miscarriage that are simply not true. Based on these incorrect assumptions it is very easy to say things that are unintentionally hurtful. At the same time, there are things that friends and loved ones can do to help the mama process her grief in a healthy way and move through it.
Over the next two weeks, on Tuesdays, I am going to post some "Do's and Don'ts" when it comes to helping your friend work through her grief. I'm sure there are many more things than I will write, but these will help you think through the grieving process your loved one is going through. Support won't mean taking away the pain, but it may mean that you will be able to lighten the stress they are feeling by being understanding and well informed.
What NOT to do (Part 2)
How to help (Part 3)